Tears, Tears, Tears

Separation anxiety is the pits. I feel bad for her and bad for myself all at the same time. My baby has it VERY bad. She cries every time she can't see me. Even in the car. If I am not in the back seat with her she cries. I don't mean a little whining either. I mean absolute panic attack with crocodile tears. We had her birthday party and she was just fine. I think she feels safe at home and with our close friends. When we are somewhere else is when she gets upset. And if someone tries to pick her up she absolutely freaks out. It is almost as if she is afraid they are going to take her. My husband and the pediatritian think it is mostly stemming from the trauma of the surgery combined with her developmental stage. And I just have no idea. The bottom line is... I am exhausted. Now that we are on vacation visiting in the in laws who she doesn't really remember we are at an all time low. Tears most of the day. If I take a shower she tries to stand outside the bathroom crying and banging on the door. She is only happy when physically attached to me and that is a lot on a person. I want to encourage her to basically get over it, but we are also in a new environment with people she doesnt know and I don't want to make it worse. It is a difficult balancing act. I love and adore her, but I am desperate for this to all pass. I miss her being happy all of the time. Sorry for my rant. It's sort of all that my mind has room for right now.